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Being a Blessing (Naso 5786)

Being a Blessing (Naso 5786)

While the Priestly Blessing is a central ritual at my family’s Shabbat table, that hasn’t always been the case. For whatever reason, it wasn’t part of my parents’ repertoire when I was growing up. That changed when, at age 12, I attended the bat mitzvah of a family friend and saw her parents place their hands on her head and recite the words. I told my folks, “I’d like us to do that.” Soon thereafter, my dad started blessing my brothers and me. (For whatever reason, my mom left it to him to do.) In both the relationship with my father and my relationship with my children, I have experienced real power in this ritual. Parent-child relationships aren’t easy, and Friday afternoons can be...

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Book Talk with Rabbi Caryn Aviv

Book Talk with Rabbi Caryn Aviv

We are grateful to Rabbi Caryn Aviv for speaking to us about her new book, Unlearning Jewish Anxiety: How to Live with More Joy and Less Suffering. Please enjoy the conversation recording below.Rabbi Caryn Aviv (she/her/hers) serves as Rabbinic and Program Director at Judaism Your Way, as well as Director of Studies at ALEPH. Caryn loves to create and facilitate transformative Jewish experiences that spark joy and meaning for Jews and loved ones. Prior to becoming a rabbi in 2020, Caryn earned a PhD in sociology from Loyola University Chicago in 2002. She taught, mentored students, and published research in Jewish Studies and sociology at University of Colorado at Boulder and the...

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Hearing the Divine, in Silence

Hearing the Divine, in Silence

The holiday of Shavuot, commemorating the revelation of Torah at Mount Sinai, begins this year Sunday night, June 1. It is striking that despite the cacophonous scene of revelation described in the Torah in Exodus 19, there is a stream within Jewish tradition that emphasizes silence as the context for intimate encounter with the Divine. Rabbinic tradition offers an interpretation that at Mount...

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First Cohort of 28 Spiritual Directors Graduate from Kol Dodi

First Cohort of 28 Spiritual Directors Graduate from Kol Dodi

In a famous Hasidic saying, the Kotzker Rebbe was once asked: “Where does God dwell?” to which he replied, “Wherever you let God in.” Spiritual direction is the practice of letting God in, of noticing the sacred thread woven throughout everyday life. Spiritual direction is a contemplative practice that invites one to grow in awareness of the sacred dimension present in every moment, no matter...

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Torah from the Well: Standing at Sinai Here and Now

Torah from the Well: Standing at Sinai Here and Now

Hi friends. I hope this message finds you well. This month, we’re focusing on preparing spiritually for Shavuot—the festival that commemorates our collective receiving of the Torah at Sinai. Many of us were taught to relate to that experience as a one-time event in the distant past. And while this historical moment continues to reverberate through Jewish life, Sinai can sometimes feel far...

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Acharei Mot-Kedoshim 5785: Of Conductors and Rabbis

Acharei Mot-Kedoshim 5785: Of Conductors and Rabbis

My very favorite TED talk is by the Israeli conductor Itay Talgam. It's called "Lead Like the Great Conductors." In 20 minutes, Talgam shows clips of some of the greats of the twentieth century: Richard Strauss, Carlos Kleiber, Riccardo Muti (who is still alive and well, conducting here in Chicago and around the world), Herbert Von Karajan, and ultimately Leonard Bernstein, who was Talgam's...

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Tazria-Metzora 5785: Eye of the Beholder

Tazria-Metzora 5785: Eye of the Beholder

In the weeks leading up to my physical this week, I was a little nervous. I had noticed a bit of pain in a sensitive area on my skin that's not easy to see, and I couldn't figure out what was causing it. There was nothing debilitating or life-threatening, but it was on my list of things to talk about with the physician. But then I made what those of us who grew up watching "The Princess Bride"...

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Josh in Conversation with Rabbi Shira Stutman

Josh in Conversation with Rabbi Shira Stutman

We are grateful to Rabbi Shira Stutman for sharing her insights with us. Please enjoy the conversation recording.Rabbi Shira Stutman is a nationally known faith-based leader and change maker with more than twenty years of experience motivating and inspiring groups large and small. She is the senior rabbi of the Aspen Jewish Congregation and co-host of the top-ranked PRX podcast Chutzpod! in...

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Shemini 5785: Be a Blessing

Shemini 5785: Be a Blessing

On Wednesday night I had to run to the drug store. We were out of antihistamine, and, being springtime, the air in Chicago is thick with stuff that makes me sneeze. There's a Walgreens around the corner from our house. As I walked up to the entrance, I saw a man holding a sign in Spanish, but headlined with "Please help." He had three young children with him, the oldest appearing to be no more...

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My Talk at the Central Conference of American Rabbis 2025

My Talk at the Central Conference of American Rabbis 2025

Last month I was honored to share some words of Torah during a plenary session at the convention of the Central Conference of American Rabbis in Chicago, alongside two wonderful colleagues: Rabbi Yael Vurgan and Dr. Claire Sufrin. The three of us were asked to spend 15 minutes each sharing a text that has helped us cultivate resilience over these recent difficult months.  The text I taught came...

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Passover 5785: Purity

Passover 5785: Purity

The other day I found myself thinking back five years, to the first Pesach we celebrated during the Covid pandemic. I remembered the strange feeling of loneliness and isolation. I remembered how families struggled to figure out whether and how they could do "Zoom seders" (and, frequently, how they would manage to get less tech-savvy relatives into the "room"). I remembered the unusual experience...

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Vayikra 5785: I’m Calling to You

Vayikra 5785: I’m Calling to You

A few years ago I received an email from Joe Reimer, a professor emeritus of Jewish education at Brandeis, with a request: to be part of a small working group supported by the Mandel Center for Jewish Education at Brandeis that would focus on the teaching and learning of Jewish spirituality. Certainly because of the people who would be involved, and possibly because of my own predilection to say...

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Mindfulness Practice of Radical Welcoming at the Seder

Mindfulness Practice of Radical Welcoming at the Seder

As we gather for the Seder, this meditation invites us to open our hearts—welcoming those present and absent, every part of ourselves, and the world’s joys and struggles. May we enter Pesach with deep presence, warmth, and gratitude, ready for renewal.

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The Tikkun of Speech in Nissan

The Tikkun of Speech in Nissan

Each month offers an opportunity for a tikkun ("repair"), a rectification of some aspect of our being. The month of Nissan, this season of spring awakening and liberation, invites us into the tikkun of speech. Pesach literally means "mouth speaks," and it is known that how we utilize our voices, words, songs, and speech is key to our redemption from mitzrayim, from the narrow places of our...

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Pekudei 5785: My Career as a Shoplifter

Pekudei 5785: My Career as a Shoplifter

I'll begin with a confession: I am a shoplifter. Well, I was a shoplifter. As a little kid. My Mom and I were shopping at the grocery store. I saw a greeting card I really liked (I remember it being blue) and I wanted to buy it. For whatever reason, my Mom said no. I surreptitiously took it anyway and hid it inside my shirt. My Mom discovered it when we got home. After a serious talking-to about...

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Vayakhel 5785: Reach Out and Touch Someone

Vayakhel 5785: Reach Out and Touch Someone

I've written here previously about my mother's journey with Alzheimer's disease, which officially began seven years ago but which has likely been going on longer than that. For me, the first visible sign was when she had a hard time reading a children's book to our youngest son, who was then 3 or 4 years old. Since then, the path has taken her through, among other things, a gradual reduction in...

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Purim & Ki Tissa 5785: A Caress, Not a Grip

Purim & Ki Tissa 5785: A Caress, Not a Grip

Our family dog, Phoebe, is a 50ish pound Plott Hound (the official state dog of North Carolina, it turns out). Plotts are hunting dogs, and Phoebe certainly likes to be active. She requires at least two long walks a day, and often more. And she will frankly take as much stimulation as we can offer. Sometimes I play a game with Phoebe: I dangle a rope in front of her, just out of her reach. She...

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Adar: A Time to Increase Joy

Adar: A Time to Increase Joy

Traditionally, the month of Adar is a time to increase joy. But how can we authentically celebrate this month during such troubling times? Rabbi Jordan Bendat-Appell's teaching helps us reframe this invitation in a way that feels more authentic to the current moment.

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Tetzaveh 5785: Truth, Peace, and Hypocrisy

Tetzaveh 5785: Truth, Peace, and Hypocrisy

While social media is, generally speaking, a wasteland of toxic drek, there are still some moments when its original hopeful potential glimmers beneath the surface. One such moment occurred for me in recent weeks, as I began to engage with an old acquaintance from my youth whose politics are pretty different from mine. He had posted something about the hypocrisy of political leaders. I couldn't...

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Terumah 5785: On My Honor

Terumah 5785: On My Honor

Regular readers will know that the Boy Scouts were a big part of life in my family growing up. My grandfather became an Eagle Scout in 1924. My father, two older brothers and I were all Eagle Scouts too. It was through Scouting that I learned formative lessons about life and leadership, camping and hiking, citizenship and first aid. But more than anything, I think Scouting helped instill in me a...

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